521: Why Passion is Crucial to a Fulfilling Life with John R. Miles

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John R. Miles

Are you truly passionate and excited about your life, or do you often feel like you’re just going through the motions and ticking days off your calendar?

It’s a question that can eat away at us if we don’t take steps to improve our mindset and our approach to life, leaving us to wonder if we’re meant for more.

That’s why I’m thrilled to introduce you to today’s guest, John R. Miles. John is the author of the new book, Passion Struck: Twelve Powerful Principles to Unlock Your Purpose and Ignite Your Most Intentional Life. John’s expertise is in leading and coaching people to reach their peak.

In this episode, John shares six game-changing behaviors you can apply today that will radically alter your approach to daily living. These practices are designed to do more than just modify surface-level habits; they’re a blueprint for a complete life transformation.

If you make these practices part of your daily routine, you’ll find that you’ll start each day with energy and enthusiasm for what lies ahead and pursue a life of deep purpose and passion.



KEY TAKEAWAYS

  • How to bridge the gap between your present self and the person you wish to become
  • The essential role of passion in leading a satisfying life
  • The significance of persistence and purposeful action in achieving goals
  • The impact of small daily decisions on our overall life trajectory
  • Understanding the differences between being motivated by extrinsic vs. intrinsic rewards
  • The transformative power of witnessing or participating in acts of kindness
  • Six pivotal practices that will transform your life

 

AYG TWEETABLES

 

“To me, passion is everything. It’s integral. It’s that catalyst for redefining your beliefs and values.”

“Passion is absolutely critical if you want to have this fulfilling life that we all aspire to live.”

 

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[INTRODUCTION]

 

Hal Elrod: Hello, friends. Welcome to the Achieve Your Goals podcast. This is your host, Hal Elrod. And this episode today is for those of us who are struggling with how we feel about life. We wake up every day and maybe you’re lacking passion or purpose or both. And you just feel like I don’t love my life right now, I don’t feel great about things, I just I’m kind of drifting. We’re going to reignite that passion that is crucial to your happiness. And my guest today, John R. Miles, is a recognized expert on intentional behavior change, leadership, and personal mastery. And his mission is founded on helping people, you, to master the inner game of life by living intentionally. He’s a keynote speaker. He is the founder and CEO of Passion Struck. He’s the author of the new book by the same title, Passion Struck: Twelve Powerful Principles to Unlock Your Purpose and Ignite Your Most Intentional Life. And last but not least, his globally renowned podcast by the same name, Passion Struck with John R. Miles, has garnered tens of millions of downloads. That is off the charts, you all. Tens of millions of downloads, and consistently holds the title of the number one alternative health podcast worldwide.

 

You’re about to meet John. You’re about to learn from John. You’re going to find out why so many people love John and turn to him when they’re struggling with how they feel about life, and their mindset, and they want help. And he is one of the best in the world at helping you find that passion and purpose that most of us have once had in life. It’s about how do we reconnect with that so we can live every day in a way that we love. We love our lives. We love ourselves. We love people around us. And that is more about us changing how we show up than it is about changing the outside forces that we are presented with every single day.

 

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Without further ado, it is my great pleasure to introduce you to my new friend, John R Miles, talking about why passion is crucial to happiness and meaning in this one life that we’ve been blessed to live. Enjoy!

[INTERVIEW]

Hal Elrod: Hey, John, it’s good to be with you, brother.

John R. Miles: Oh, man, it is so awesome to see you again. And congratulations on the relaunch of The Miracle Morning. What a fantastic book.

Hal Elrod: Oh, thank you. Thank you, I appreciate that. I wanted to ask you a question. So, you often go by John R. Miles, your middle initial, and I was wondering, I googled John R. Miles. And I believe a famous singer comes up, and I was wondering if that’s why you have the R publicly, so that not to be confused with the singer John Miles. Is that it? Or am I just making that up?

John R. Miles: My distant cousin, John Miles, in England and my whole family is from England, was a famous singer. I have all three of his albums.

Hal Elrod: Wow. Oh, so I didn’t know that he’s related to you.

John R. Miles: Yeah, he’s a distant cousin. But I didn’t know that at the time. I’ve gotten to know it over time as I’ve done more research. But I was able to find, even here in the States, three of his records, I can’t imagine he sold that many. But he had a big hit in the early 70s. And it has been so hard to get Google rankings against him, or the domain. So, I decided to just use my middle initial to differentiate. And I’ve realized recently, I’ve put out so much content now that I do get first page ranking on John Miles, but I haven’t gotten to the top yet.

Hal Elrod: Yeah, yeah, how funny that is. What an interesting thing that your cousin, you’re like, “Hey, can you please change your name or do something?”

John R. Miles: He’s deceased now, but the domain is still not available.

Hal Elrod: Got it. Okay. All right. Well, I believe that with just the little that I’ve gotten to spend with you, the time I’ve gotten to spend with you, just following you on social media, you are so authentic and inspirational. And I think, with enough time, you can pull the R off your name and you’ll be ranked everywhere.

Let me start here. So, I’m looking at you right now on video. A lot of our listeners on the podcast, they won’t see this. They’ll just hear it. But you’re wearing a shirt that says Passion Struck. Your book is titled Passion Struck. That brand-new book comes out on February 6, 2024. Your podcast, your website, it’s all Passion Struck. So, I just want to start there. What does that mean? And why are you sharing that message? Why does that become your life’s mission?

John R. Miles: Hal, I have a great story behind this because four years ago, I didn’t even know what the word passion struck meant and I didn’t have it registered and nothing like that. I was venturing into this new area that I’m doing now of helping people with personal mastery. And I had been studying for a number of years some of the luminaries, the people that we call 10x their lives are in the top 5%. And I was looking for patterns of what makes a Marc Benioff a Marc Benioff, or what creates Bono or Hilary Swank or whoever you want to think of when you think of high performers, yourself, Robin Sharma, the list can go on. And I kept seeing these principles come back and back again as I was looking at what they had intentionally done to craft the ideal life that they wanted.

And I remember, I was talking to one of these people who has been a long-term mentor of mine, Keith Krach. Keith founded Ariba, was the CEO and chairman of DocuSign more recently and, most recently, was the Assistant Secretary of State. And when he was in that last job, we were having a conversation and I was talking to him. Then I had this idea in my mind for a book and I said, “It’s just, I think I’ve found one of the key frameworks that people can use to 10x their life.” And I go, “It’s kind of this framework where you go from this state of being stuck for whatever reason, where you’re at, and then all of a sudden, you life craft this passion inside of you where it drives you to tackle a unique problem that only you can solve. And you were so enamored by it that you’re willing to risk everything to go after it because you think it can make such a huge difference to the world.” And he goes, “John, it sounds like it’s someone who’s gone from being stuck to passion struck.” And I’m like, “That’s it.”

And the crazy thing, we started out talking about my name. I went to GoDaddy thinking for sure this is registered. And then the thing that pops up first is a perfume from Victoria’s Secrets named Passion Struck. So, then I’m even more convinced that this thing is taken. And I go there and there it is for $10.99. And I could not believe it.

Hal Elrod: PassionStruck.com.

John R. Miles: And I was like, this is just divine intervention right here. And that’s been it ever since. And the book, the idea for the book actually preceded everything else. But once I got that name, it’s just kind of been the movement. So, there you go.

Hal Elrod: Yeah. Well, no, it’s funny, I resonate with that so much because my wife is the one that coined Miracle Morning. Just for me, personally, she said– I told her my morning routine was like a miracle because it was changing my life. She goes, “It’s your miracle morning.” I go, “I love that.” So, her writing my schedule, Miracle Morning every day. And then one day, when I was like, “Wait, I need to share this with others. I need to make this into a book.” And same thing, I went to GoDaddy.com. I’m like, “I’m sure Miracle Morning is taken.” And I was blown away when, like you said for– and back then it was like $8.99, I think. That was like 15 years ago, I was able to buy the domain. So, yeah, and it’s so funny. I wonder how many people, John, GoDaddy has been interpreted as a sign from the universe, right? Where meaning you have an idea, you go, “There’s no way the domain is available.” And then you go, and it is, you go, “Oh, it’s meant to be.” I wonder how many life purposes GoDaddy has created from that. Interesting.

John R. Miles: I have another great…

Hal Elrod: So, talk about your back…

John R. Miles: And I was just going to say, I have another crazy story that happened not too long ago on these same lines.

Hal Elrod: Oh, yeah.

John R. Miles: I got a buddy who lives right up the street from me who’s a retired Navy SEAL, John Doolittle, and John is a speaker, and he had a speaker page and his domain was the domain for his company. And I’m like, “Why aren’t you using your own name?” I go, “It’s available on GoDaddy.” He goes, “What are you talking about?” He goes, “I checked six months ago and it wasn’t there.” And it just so happened that I looked and the name had become available and he grabbed it. So, you never know.

Hal Elrod: Wow. Yeah. No, I know, yeah, like for me, there’s a Hal Elrod in Houston a few hours away and he’s got the Instagram handle, Hal Elrod. And so, I’ve got Hal underscore, but yeah, funny world we live in, how important that is to capture your name, your intellectual property, right? So, I’ve got my kids’ names. I’m sure you probably do, too. And I’ve got their domains in case they ever need them.

Talk about, yeah, I’d love to back up a little bit and your background before Passion Struck became– you’re the CEO of Passion Struck. Now, it’s the book, it’s your brand, it’s your podcast. What was life before that? I mean, I know you were a C-suite. You were executive. What led you into this work? What’s some of the backstory?

John R. Miles: Hal, I’ve had a dynamic business career. There’s very few positions at the top of companies that I haven’t sat in. I had always thought I wanted to be a leader. It’s something that just growing up was kind of just this passion that I had. And I did everything to try to pursue it, even at young ages, by starting a paper route so I could learn skills from it, such as having to confront people to get money or self-leadership, knowing that I was going to have to do this every single day, regardless the conditions.

And when it came time to choose what college I was going to go to, I got in to some great universities – Brown, Duke, University of Michigan, but there was just something that was pulling me towards this. And so, I applied to the Naval Academy, was fortunate enough to get in. And to me, it was this sign that if I want to pursue leadership, become the best leader I possibly can, then you’ve got to go to one of the institutions who’s known for creating some of the best leaders in the world. And so, it led me to the Naval Academy.

Coming out of the Naval Academy, I ended up getting really a fantastic opportunity. I was one of only three people who got selected to work with the National Security Agency, and so, I was part of the Navy’s element that supports NSA. But because of that, it gave me all these incredible experiences. I was what they call a direct support officer. And so, I got to go on aircraft, ships, submarines, aircraft carriers. I took on another position where I got to be assigned to a Naval Special Warfare unit, a SEAL team. And then I was on a joint staff with an Admiral staff, too.

And coming out of that, I thought my career was going to be the FBI. That’s when I got out of the military to pursue, and the people in Congress were going through the same infighting that we have right now back then, and they couldn’t pass the budget. My class was canceled, and it led me to this unintentional reinvention that I had to do because I had a wife at the time. And so, I ended up getting a position in consulting. And the big four consulting then led to an opportunity in industry. I spent the next 10 years in different Fortune 500 companies, culminating at the C-level with Dell. And then after leaving Dell, I ended up going into private equity.

But to answer your question, when I was at Dell, I was at this point where most people would have thought I was at the peak, I was at this culmination of everything I had aspired to be. And I was 39 years old. I was living in Austin, not too far down the road from you. And everything on the outside looked like it was perfect.

And one of my favorite studies that you quote in your book is the Cornell one from 2018 that I now quote as well, because when people look back and they start looking at their life as they’re approaching the end, what this Cornell study showed is that 76% of them have the same regret, and that is that they aren’t pursuing their ideal self. And that’s exactly where I was stuck. And it reminds me of one of my favorite quotes by Henry David Thoreau that the mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. And that’s exactly where I found myself.

I had gone into this portfolio career. It hadn’t been really that passionate calling, but once I got involved into it, I was further and further into it. And at a point, you get to this aspect where you’re in it and if you’re going to in it, you need to maximize the opportunities. And so, I started pursuing titles, success, money, everything that came with it. And I might have been financially rich, but I was emotionally bankrupt and I experienced severe numbness. I can’t even explain to someone how apathetic I felt and how I would wake up in the morning and it just felt like nothing mattered, because what I was looking forward to in my days was an endless set of meetings, HR issues, politics, emails that were everything but fulfilling.

And right at that point, I started hearing this inner voice, not like a schizophrenic inner voice, but this inner voice who was talking to me, and it was telling me that I wasn’t on this path that I was destined to be. And I think one of the things I often look at is self-discriminate, self-discrepancy theory, where you have your actual self, your ideal self, and your ought self. And my actual self at that point in time was more aligned with my ought self. So, your actual self is who you are. Your ought self is who you think you should be because of the burdens and obligations that you have. And your ideal self is who you desire to become. And I had become my ought self, and I realized that my ideal self was out there, but I wasn’t pursuing it. And that was really the launching point that ultimately culminated into doing what I’m doing today.

Hal Elrod: Yeah, I feel like that’s a pull for everybody, kind of an inner conflict of, even for me, when I’m pursuing my ideal self, I fall back into my ought self, right? I end up saying yes to too many things that at the time, might be exciting, but I realize there are unintended consequences. And now, it’s like, “Oh shoot, I’m not happy. I said yes to too many things. Now, I’m fulfilling other people’s priorities. I’m not happy.” So, yeah, I think that anyone watching this, I mean, it’s such a common universal part of the human experience in our society. I don’t think it’s part of the human inherent experience if you grew up a thousand years ago, right? You probably weren’t pulled in so many directions. It was like, “All right, let’s wake up and let’s forage the land and hunt and feed our family and then be our ideal self.”

You mentioned earlier the Passion Struck framework. And so, I want to ask, I’d love for you to unpack some of that, some of the key principles. But I want to ask you first, kind of a big picture question about it, which is, I guess, there’s two questions here before we get into the framework. Number one, would you say that the benefits of living with passion– I think about Tony Robbins. When I was 20 years old, I went to a Tony Robbins’ UPW, Unleash the Power Within conference and like, live with passion. And Tony is a smart guy, right? He realizes that that, like you said, you study the world’s most successful people. You find that as a common theme, as they have passion, they live with passion, but the average person may not be doing that. So, the first question is what’s the benefit? Like, what’s the correlation, let’s say, between happiness, life satisfaction, and passion? That’s the first question. In fact, why don’t you answer that one and then I’ll get to the second.

John R. Miles: I mean, to me, passion is everything. It’s integral. It’s that catalyst for redefining your beliefs and values. It fuels your transformation and it clarifies one’s why. It’s the profound connection to passion that not only inspires us to learn and grow, but also plays a crucial role in overcoming limiting beliefs and self-doubts inherent in one’s current mindset. So, to me, passion is absolutely critical if you want to have this fulfilling life that we all aspire to live.

Hal Elrod: And would you say that, would the opposite of passion be apathy or something else?

John R. Miles: I kind of say that the opposite of being passion struck is being apathetic. I think, I guess you could say that if you don’t have passion, you’re indifferent, which is really the same thing as being apathetic or you’re lacking significance in your life. One word I like to use is anti-mattering. So, you’re experiencing anti-mattering or unmattering.

Hal Elrod: Meaning that you don’t feel like you matter?

John R. Miles: Meaning you don’t feel like you matter. You don’t feel like you matter to other people. You don’t feel like your life is impacting society anyway. Like, you’re going through the motions, but for what purpose?

Hal Elrod: Okay, yeah, that’s helpful. And the next question just kind of leading into the framework is what you’ve discovered is that this framework, this Passion Struck framework, that enables someone to intentionally or you can almost say strategically to develop passion in their lives. Meaning I’m just thinking if someone’s like, yeah, but I don’t have passion, I’m not passionate about anything, I do lean more toward, I would say I’m indifferent or I’m apathetic. So, is what your work has discovered is that if you follow this framework, you can go from being apathetic and indifferent to being passion struck, to really living a life with a genuine, not manufactured, but a genuine, authentic passion? So, have you found that the framework bridges that gap?

John R. Miles: I absolutely have, but I think that there are three magic ingredients that people need to understand. Passion is one. Perseverance is the other side of the triangle. And let me explain this. So, one of my favorite authors, Angela Duckworth, I love her work on grit. And there is a lot of similarities because she spent a whole bunch of time studying cadets at West Point. I have firsthand knowledge being a midshipman from the Naval Academy. And she said that it was physical attributes, passion, and perseverance that allowed someone to get through summer and eventually graduate.

And while those things are absolutely true because you need the physical abilities to take care of yourself and to pass the physical trials that they throw at you, you absolutely need the passion that we already discussed and you need to be able to persevere against the things that are thrown in your way. But the missing part of the triangle to me is intentionality. Meaning, you have to realize that if your path is going not in the direction that you want it to, meaning you’re failing out of West Point or you’re doing behaviors that could cause an honor violation or cause some other infraction that leads you from not graduating, then you need to be intentional about course correcting to follow your aspirations and your values.

And so, to me. I really call it in the book, that creating a self-reliant life is really that combination of passion, perseverance, and intentionality. So, that’s absolutely part of the framework. But then it goes along with the other elements, the other three components that make up the book.

Hal Elrod: So, intentionality, and yeah, to me, that would be something that if you are apathetic or indifferent, you’re missing intentionality. I would almost say the opposite of passion is apathy and the opposite of intention is indifference, right? Indifference is, “Ah, yeah, I got no intention,” versus intention, you’re actually being conscious and thoughtful about how you’re showing up, how you’re approaching life.

I’ve heard you mentioned that intentionality is like a muscle and it grows stronger with every use, which makes sense to me. Most physical capabilities and mental capabilities, that muscle analogy seems to make sense. Can you elaborate on this analogy and provide examples of how individuals can exercise, how they can strengthen their intentionality muscle just in their daily lives?

John R. Miles: When I try to define intentionality for someone, think of it as being purposeful and deliberate action that’s taken to achieve a goal. When someone acts intentionally, they’re not only aware of their actions, but also of the purpose behind them. And I think that’s extremely important for people to understand. So, let me give you an example. I think, most of us are in this day-to-day conundrum that we find ourselves in because we’re going through the same motions. And whether you say we have 60,000 thoughts a day or 90,000 thoughts a day, depending on who you’re talking to, we get in this pattern of making repetitive decisions all the time that kind of leave us stagnated. To me, those are the unintentional decisions that are just occurring in our life. They’re oftentimes the easy decision, meaning instead of working on this paper that I have to do for this graduate degree that I’m pursuing, I’m going to watch TV or I’m going to have a beer with the guys, whereas if you start getting in the habit of making intentional choices, micro choices throughout the hours that make up your day, you start making them more and more in alignment with the long-term aspirations that you have, the short-term goals, but more importantly, your core values.

And what ends up happening is the more you keep making these micro choices. They build upon each other. To me, it’s like if you look at burnout, burnout doesn’t just happen overnight. You start feeling burnout even when it’s just below the surface, and then it eventually builds up. To me, the same happens if you want to 10x your life. You start making intentional choices that form into habits that create greater actions over time that culminate into a 10x life.

Hal Elrod: Yeah, I’m trying to think of, when I was younger, I don’t know if I learned this somewhere, it just it came to me, but it was the idea of making value-added choices, which is every choice that you make, the question for me was, between these two decisions, which one adds the most value to my life, right? If I’m choosing which food I’m going to eat at a restaurant, you’re like, “Oh, that looks really good. That cheeseburger with extra bacon and this and that, that looks really good.” Or there’s this other chicken breast with lean meat and not so much preservatives, whatever it is, it’s like which decision adds value to my life. And I think that’s what we’re talking, these micro decisions every single day, are you making the decision that adds the most value to your life, or the one that is the easiest, or the one that brings you the most instant pleasure and dopamine hit, dopamine rush, that kind of thing?

One of the things you talk about is shifting from external validation, which I think, again, part of it is our society. I think part of it also is just inherent in us that we want external validation. In fact, my daughter the other day went through a teen mastermind, and when she got home, I said, “What did you learn?” She said, “Oh, we learned about the six human needs.” I said, “Amazing.” And she goes, “I realize that significance is my number one need.” I’m like, “Oh, when I was your age, it was my number one need too. Nothing wrong with that at all.” And anyway, we talked about it shifting.

But you talk about the idea of shifting from external validation to embracing intrinsic validation, intrinsic drivers. I think that’s intriguing. So, how does Passion Struck guide readers in identifying and harnessing these intrinsic motivations? And maybe you can, even for the listener, for someone that’s not aware of extrinsic versus intrinsic as part of their vocabulary, I don’t want to assume, so maybe define the difference between those two motivators.

John R. Miles: Yeah, there’s a great book, I’m not sure if you’re familiar with it or not, by Tim Kasser, came out in 2003 called The High Price of Materialism. And in it, he offers a scientific explanation of how contemporary culture that we find ourselves in is driven by consumerism and materialism. So, when you think of external validation or external motivation, it’s typically things that are aligned with that, such as making money, achieving success, getting a hire title at work, driving for being a certain position that you think is going to bring you these things. And what people don’t realize is the way that it ends up affecting our everyday happiness and our psychological health and what he shows in the book is that those people whose values center on extrinsic drivers face greater risks of unhappiness, including anxiety, depression, low esteem, and even problems with intimacy compared to those who are more focused on intrinsic drivers.

So, intrinsic drivers are those things that bring you inherently internal satisfaction. The way I like to think of it is they’re the relationships that you cultivate. I’m sure you’re aware of it. There was a great study that’s been going on for 80-plus years now called the Harvard Study of Advanced Development. And what they have shown is that the biggest key to long-term happiness is the relationships we cultivate. So, I mean, that’s one just right there. But to me, it’s really following what you’re passionate about. But not only passionate, to me, it’s really doing things that are in service of others.

Because if you look at the work from Dacher Keltner at UC Berkeley, what he has found is at the times we most commonly find ourselves in the state of awe is when we’re witnessing other people doing acts of kindness or we ourselves are doing acts for other people. And so, to me, it’s those intrinsic things that we are doing that light our fire inside that ultimately bring us contentment and happiness and cultivating this life that we want. So, that’s what I mean between the difference between external drivers and internal drivers.

Hal Elrod: And what do you feel like the– I guess, if we can talk about some tangible, some tips, some strategies on how do you develop intrinsic drivers, intrinsic motivation if somebody is listening and they go, well, I’m not intrinsically motivated. Like, for me, it is about impressing my colleagues or getting that recognition from some sort of outside source, which again, I think that our society conditioned us for that. When you’re a kid, if you’re a first grader and you get praised for answering a question, that feeds that human need for significance, now you feel relevant, you feel important, etc. So, how does one go about developing intrinsic drivers, intrinsic motivation?

John R. Miles: So, this is something that I really reference in the third portion of my book. I call it the Psychology of Progress. And this is all about the role that action plays and its role in reshaping our mindset and behaviors. Because if you’re currently thinking that way and that’s how you’re going about the actions that you’re taking, then you’re going to pursue actions that continue to go in that direction. However, if you start to think about things a little bit differently and how you can start integrating different life goals into the things that you’re chasing, seamlessly integrating those things into your behavior starts changing your brain’s neural pathways, adapting them and, over time, those behaviors start becoming different.

So, to me, it’s really this internal drive by following your passions and journey and your journey of life that helps you move beyond the need for external validation and developing a deep sense of mattering in yourself. A feeling significant and valued in the sense of mattering then anchors us to our why, energizing our pursuit of goals with the relentless determination or that inner spark that influences not only how we persevere through challenges, but also is the guidepost behind our mindset shifts. So that’s kind of how I think about it.

Hal Elrod: Yeah, yeah. No, that totally makes sense. And I think that true fulfillment comes from developing those intrinsic drivers because otherwise, your emotional well-being is dependent on outside forces that you don’t have control over, right? If you’re not getting the praise that you want or you’re not getting the response from other people that you want, then you don’t feel fulfilled. I had Jamie Kern Lima on the podcast recently. Her episode will come out here in a couple of weeks. Her new book, Worthy, it’s all about feeling worthy, right? If you can generate those feelings, those intrinsic feelings of self-worth and worthiness, then you are no longer dependent on outside forces for your mental and emotional well-being.

So, I want to talk about Passion Struck emphasizes a, I guess I’d call it a blueprint for personal growth. And listeners of this podcast, personal growth is, for most of us, at the forefront, it’s the center of our lives. But again, your book, it talks about living a life of significance. Could you elaborate on getting into the actionable steps or strategies that readers can expect to find in the book that will help them transform their lives?

John R. Miles: The book, as I was explaining earlier, has three parts. The third part that I just talked about, which is the Psychology of Progress, but it has two other fundamental components that make up the Passion Struck framework. And those are six mindset shifts and then six behavior shifts. And so, I can start by naming off a couple of them. But the way I came to this was by studying these luminaries that I talked about at the beginning of the podcast and what allowed them to 10x their lives to become part of the 5% who were able to break through. And these things kept coming up as recurring ways that all of them were shaping their lives. And as I was going through my own personal transformation, I was able to utilize each of these myself and helping me get from where I was feeling apathetic at the time to doing what I’m doing today.

And so, the first one is something that I call the Mission Angler, and it’s really about life crafting. It goes from there into once you start going down this path of crafting this ideal self that you want, you’re going to have to start reinventing yourself to go along with this new person you want to become. And after that, the next thing that typically starts happening is, if you have this new direction in life, you’re starting to take steps to reinvent yourself. And then most often, you start running into people influences who start being negative influences.

So, the next step is to become a Mosquito Auditor and out and out the human mosquitoes. From there, along with that will then come self-doubt, imposter syndrome, limiting beliefs, so it’s becoming a Fear Confronter. After that, it goes into becoming a Perspective Harnesser, which is really understanding how to use cognitive restructuring to take what most of us think of as linear approaches to how we’re thinking about things either/or and make them become both/and thinking. So, thinking of not only your mind, but mind and body is an example of that.

And then the last mindset shift is being the Action Creator. So, those are the first six at a very high level. But in each one of these, the way I lay them out is I kind of go through a personal experience of me using it. I then go through the principles themselves, and then I highlight well-recognized people in most of the chapters so people could understand how some of these luminaries I describe are implementing these in their own life. For instance, the Mission Angler has Gary Vee and Jim McKelvey, the founder of Square, in it. The Mosquito Auditor one has Oprah Winfrey and Thaddeus Bullard who goes by Titus O’Neil in the World Wrestling Federation. The Action Creator has retired astronaut Wendy Lawrence in it and Mark Cuban. So, I try to use that. And then at the end of it, I give actionable tips and then exercises that people can use. And then the Psychology of Progress really then becomes the mechanics for how do you just take this information, and instead of it being information, being it’s something that you learn how to apply in your life.

Hal Elrod: Yeah, I think that for me, as a fellow author, I feel like most books shift people’s thinking but not their behavior. And so, all they get is they finish reading a book, they’re like, “Oh, my gosh, that was amazing. I got so many great ideas. Now, I’m going to read another book.” And then because that book didn’t initiate behavior change for them, then they go on to another book and now they’ve forgotten most what they read in the last book. And again, you go from book to book to book.

So, I’m going to ask you kind of a confronting question, if you will. I mean, I think you’ve answered this question a lot throughout, but if you have any other answer to this other than all of what you’ve shared today, in your opinion, what distinguishes Passion Struck from other self-help or personal development books on the market? Because, again, there’s so many of them and I think that if I’m listening to this, I’m going, “Oh, man, I’ve got books on the shelf I need to read.” So, what would you say distinguishes Passion Struck from other books?

John R. Miles: Hal, I didn’t write this to be read. I wrote it to be lived. And to me, that was an essential component of this, is I wanted to put something out there that people could come back to again and again and again and keep learning and applying it, because our life is a series of ups and downs, and this framework is meant to help you understand where you’re at in the passion struck continuum, and then what steps you can use to take yourself to the next level. And so, that would be my answer. I wanted it to be a book like yours or Jim Kwik’s. I love Limitless because it’s something that I come back to all the time, is I want to brush up on my approach to speed reading or how I’m thinking about my approach to learning or yours.

Even though I’ve been doing the Miracle Morning now for seven or eight years, I still come back to it at times to relook at it. And am I really implementing the things in the right way or should I be doing it differently? So, it was really meant to be a living guide that will be complemented in the future with e-books, the Passion Struck University, online coaching, and more things so that it’s not just something that you put on your bookshelf, but it’s something that you utilize as a regular, essential component of how you want to build your life.

Hal Elrod: Yeah. Well, you have a very popular podcast and social media following, so that you are already beyond the book. You’ve been sharing Passion Struck for years. Where’s the best place for people to get Passion Struck, to get the book, and then also, to follow you for your podcast, for your inspiration on social media, so on and so forth?

John R. Miles: Hey, Hal, thank you for asking me that. So, as we talked about at the beginning, I use my middle initial, so John R. Miles, you can find me on all the social platforms. It’s my website as well, JohnRmiles.com. And anything Passion Struck, you can go to PassionStruck.com. That’s where you’ll find the book, that’s where you’ll find the podcast, and so many more things that you can get access to.

Hal Elrod: Awesome. I just want to clarify for everybody listening, J-O-H-N R, Miles, M-I-L-E-S because I got a bunch of Jon friends with J-O-N and a bunch of John friends with J-O-H-N. So, that’s a name, they can have a couple of ways to spell it. So, well, John, you’re seriously, I don’t know why the word delight came to me, that doesn’t usually come to me, but a delight, like, I just, I really enjoy the time that I get with you, and you have a very– like I said, a very just, sincere, authentic and inspiring way about you. And thank you for how you’re showing up in the world. And thank you for getting that domain PassionStruck.com and writing the book and starting the podcast and sharing your gifts with the world. I really appreciate you.

John R. Miles: Hal, thank you so much. It was such an honor to be here and to get to serve your community.

Hal Elrod: Awesome, brother. Well, goal achievers and members of the Miracle Morning Community, like John said, he didn’t write the book to be read. He wrote it to be lived. So, if you’re looking for a book to help you transform your life, check out Passion Struck everywhere books are sold or go right over to PassionStruck.com to check out John’s social media following, his podcast, and the book as well. So, love you all so much and I will talk to you next week.

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